do shit that makes you happy

Tuesday was one of those days…I was having a sliiight pity party for one and going down a social media rabbit hole didn’t make matters better. Instead of reflecting on my accomplishments, I went straight to comparison and the ugly thoughts of:

“sh*t it’s almost the end of the year, WTF have I done?!” 

“damn she’s so young and killing it, FML”

“andddd another role I couldn’t get into the room for”

“I really haven’t gotten in many rooms [casting director’s offices] this year, so I suck” 

“I’m not going to make it in LA” 

etc. etc. etc.

Yep. Those nasty fuckers (aka thoughts) crept in real hard. With the end of the year coming in full speed ahead, it’s pretty easy to feel those WTF did I do this year thoughts? Admittedly, I’m still hung up on the fact that I don’t have a TV credit to my name. I’m SAG eligible, and my auditions this episodic season have been lackluster.

But I know it’s dumb to hold on to the negative.

I mean I was a lead in a movie this year! Number 2 on the call sheet baby. I filmed another fun role later in the summer and managed to pass my level one somm exam. Can’t take that away from me.

Admittedly my fall quarter I slowed down on the social media game and didn’t post much to my blog. But hey, like nature, we all have cycles and shouldn’t beat ourselves up about it.

So, friendly reminder if you’re feeling down or beating yourself up in the comparison game- just tell those bad thoughts to SHUT IT OFF.

Pour yourself a glass (or 2 of wine) and throw on your favorite show, go on a run, read the book that’s been on your nightstand for months (is that just me?!), make some cookies, whatever makes you happy and tell yourself life is marathon and not a sprint. Best to enjoy yourself along the way, because if you can’t learn to do that on your ride to your top- then how can you expect to appreciate your life when you success comes your way?! Biggie wasn’t lying when he said “more money, more problems”. There’s always going to be something “more”, so enjoy the now.

Kick ASS today. Keep dreaming BIG. And do something for yourself that’ll make you smile. Even if it’s just for a few moments. Soak it in, and repeat on the reg.

xo NP

P.S. I followed this recipe and drank a chilled Pinot Noir. A+ combo (just sub dark chocolate chips for milk when making the cookies!)

food for thought: self promotion

Here’s the thing, self promotion is a necessity. And this expands past creatives too, no matter what you are pursing in life, you’re not going to further yourself without a good dose of humble bragging. Humble being the key because no one likes a douche-y “I DGAF about you, but my life is LIIIIIT” brag. Just don’t.

Now I classify myself as an extrovert- I love meeting new people, socializing, etc. so talking about myself usually comes easily. Usually. There are days when I’d rather not and listening to others is my cup of tea. So for the sake of honest conversation, I have my days.

I also have friends who fall on the introverted side. Self promotion can feel like a task and a half. It feel so opposite of their being and yucky. Which I see too, talking about yourself in front of new people, people who you might admire can feel intimidating- like, “I haven’t done anything of note, so why bother sharing”.

But again mindset here. And I have a trick that I use to grow and cultivate that confidence.

ENTER MANTRA CARDS

I am such a huge proponent!!! At first I poo-poo’d them (classic extrovert, I’m already confident, I don’t need them). So false. And they couldn’t be easier to make and utilize. Essentially, you’re writing positive mindset phrases that you repeat to yourself daily. Think- an AM pep talk to yourself. The repetition and practice will help lessen the shitty “I’m not good enough/ things won’t work out/ I don’t have support” thoughts. So grab yourself a stack of index cards and make a set for your bed side table. Some of my favorites are:

I AM ENOUGH
WHEN DID IT GET SO EASY TO TRUST THAT I AM DOING ENOUGH?
GLOW BABY GLOW
HERE I AM WORLD, LOOK AT ME
I GIVE MYSELF PERMISSION TO GO FOR IT
MY TIMING IS PERFECT
I LOVE MYSELF JUST THE WAY I AM

You can make them more specific to your field, but they are really about opening your mind and filling your head with the good thoughts. My theory is that the better you feel mentally, the easier it is to open up and share your wins.

And speaking of BIG WIN, my film GEO DISASTER is now available to watch/rent/buy on Amazon (link below) and OnDemand! I couldn’t be more proud of how it turned out. We filmed it in 10 days and with a budget of around $175,000, which in Hollywood is next to nothing. Props to everyone involved. Can’t wait for you to see if I survive!


one final thought:

EVERYONE STARTS SOMEWHERE

Hold that true. My friends and family have reminded me of this lately. You are the CEO of your own life, so build yourself up baby-no one else will more than yourself.

Cheers!

 

wine wednesday: cause for celebration

Confession: I haven’t been following my own advice. Me, the champion of celebrating and eating up what life has to offer, wasn’t excited about my own movie premiere. I was downplaying the hell out of it to the point that I was confusing my excitement for nerves (which is a thing btw- they both give off the same physiological symptoms: faster heart rate, higher levels of cortisol, sweating, etc.)

So here I was days before the big night aka tonight poo-pooing my success: “Oh, it’s gonna be bad” “My acting’s going to suck” “It wasn’t a big budget thing soo…it’s gonna be campy” “It’s nothing to be proud of”

F*$& THAT

Thank God I had a moment where I realized what I was doing was dumb, and was able to shift my mindset. This is a big deal. So what if the film isn’t going to any festivals in the future? It was my first experience being a lead in a feature and I should damn well celebrate my work. Period. End of discussion. Because if I can’t take the time to celebrate my own work, why am I even chasing the dream?

Well, I’m off to get done up, drink some bubbly and celebrate with my onscreen fam (pictured below)!

And in case you want your wine lesson for the day…

MORE ON BUBBLY:

I talked about the champagne process here complete with a little 60 second video to get you up to speed. We can say merci to the French for creating this spirited beverage!

food for thought #2: show me the money

Let’s talk first jobs. Mine was actually a diaper commercial. And man, I really wish I could recall that day of filming. Like I want nothing more than to see the world through my toddler eyes that day, but until that technology becomes available, the footage itself will have to do.

Yep, “that’s me” alright. Living my best life at the age of 2. Happily being a ham in front of the camera.

 

Since then, many things have changed in the ad world. Lots of companies are now approaching influencers about promoting their products and a lot of commercial work for actors has gone non-union (aka less money and no residuals). Business wise, I get it. They’re cutting costs where they can. And it’s funny to be on both sides as someone who auditions for commercials but also blogs.

So here’s my two cents: if you are being approached by these bigger companies know your worth! I know it can be scary to ask for more money, but if you don’t ask then you’ll a) never know if they’d pay you more b) step outside your comfort zone and realize it’s not actually that scary to ask. But also have the grounds to back yourself up. Numbers talk sure, but engagement is where it’s at. They’re more likely to show you the money when you stand up for your work.

Just a little reminder, sparked from mini-me, to know your worth and stick to it.

Have a great weekend y’all!

Signing off from Austin, TX

NP

food for thought: 1st edition

Soooo in Wednesday’s post I mentioned how had been feeling uninspired the past few weeks. Do you ever have those moments? I was like, I have this beautiful blog space and I don’t feel like writing + sharing sh*t. I was down on myself because lately I’ve only been sharing wine content, which is great, don’t get me wrong, but this isn’t a wine blog. But it’s also not a fashion blog, food blog or my acting page. Bottom line is, I was having an identity crisis.

All the advice I hear when you start a blog is find your niche. And even though I’ve been at this for over a year, it still feels brand new! I’m still “trial and erroring” as I grow this site. WTF is my niche?? I’m a self proclaimed actress with an appetite for many aspects of life. I want to try it all!

This is where the “food for thought” series came to life. I needed a way to funnel down so I wasn’t all over the map.

It went a little something like this:

I was having an Aperol spritz with one of my best friends and I brought up how I was feeling so “meh/overwhelmed/gahhhhelpmeplease” about this site.  I knew the wine was working (when is it not?!) but I didn’t know which direction to go with other posts. I have ideas but lately they’d just been clouding my brain and no action was happening. I wanted consistency.  A) to help me fit writing into my schedule and B) so y’all + new readers know what to expect. 

Why don’t you do a “food for thought Fridays”? That way you have your wine on Wednesday and Fridays you can open up about your other areas of interest.  

**I nearly started crying** Ok sliiight exaggeration, but her idea was brilliant: An op-ed style Friday segment where I could write about acting, food, breakups, losses, wins, double standards, and why I hate the term “overnight success”.

A weight was lifted off my chest. This is my niche. Drinking and dishing my way through Hollywood. Serving up a slice of honesty with a side of do what makes you happy.

So here’s to many more editions of sharing my stories, words of wisdom, how I keep hustling…favorite restaurants sprinkled in their too.

Cheers friends!

xxNP