hey 27, it’s nice to meet you

It’s a blessing and a curse having a January birthday. Half of your friends are doing a dry January (one of my best friends always starts her post my bday-thank you!) and a lot people are worn out from the marathon that is the holiday season. However, I have this cool thing where I live the full calendar year as one age, and as the new year begins, so do I.

And man does turning 27 feel weird as fuck. It’s an age where my ego is like, “bitch you’re getting ollllld- you’re basically 30 and need to start settling, making babies, getting your series regular etc.” In reality, I know age is only a number and shouldn’t inhibit how you want to live your life. *Easier said than done with societal pressures and outside judgements but I have a solution for that, just hold tight for a moment. Let me give you a brief back story of 2017, aka the age of 26.

I set out at the beginning of last year to really open up my heart. To let myself be loved by others. The funny thing about me is that I’m excellent at giving love out, but when it comes to receiving and accepting that same love I have guards up to not get hurt. Which I realized was really silly. So, I wanted to open that heart UP. And boy did I– I went on dates, had some hookups, some ‘relationships’, a true relationship I thought would be more long-term and at the end of the year/beginning of the new, I am single.

So did I fail?!

Not one bit- I might not have the relationship I thought I’d go into the new year with, BUT I have something a whole lot better. More self worth, a lot more confidence and a motherfucking bounty of love from my friends and family.

I let them love me hard. Love, help me, listen to me in a way that was new. It was with an open heart from my end. And that is the true win of 26. Yes I booked some fun gigs and advanced my wine career, but at the core I really did open my heart.

There’s that saying that you have to put out in the world what you want to receive. And just like a rocket launched into space course corrects a million times before landing on the moon, this year of opening my heart happened. And happened in huge way. I let the universe work its magic (and yes I’m relating opening my heart to launching a rocket into space) and landed on the moon in a way I didn’t think was possible: single but feeling more loved than ever. My friends and family you are THE BEST. Words cannot express my gratitude for you, but if you’re reading this know that I would hand you my last LaCroix/first-bite my food/shower you with kisses and hugs.

Now back to that *! With opening my heart last year I became a lot more self-conscious. Shit got vulnerable and scary. I gave a lot more fucks what some people thought, but in areas of life that their opinion shouldn’t matter one iota. Moral of the story and what y’all should practice: GIVE LESS DUCKS!! Not a typo (and not that I don’t love the power of a well placed fuck) but ducks keep it a little lighter. Easier to take yourself seriously enough, but not so seriously that your friends start to worry.

So here’s the 2018 (the age of 27) where I aim to:

  • GIVE LESS DUCKS ABOUT THE OPINIONS AND THOUGHTS OF OTHERS (as in always listen to friends, but give up the need to please them and let go of the possible judgement)
  • PRACTICE ‘I AM FULL OF ABUNDANCE’ AS A MANTRA (as in knowing my life is full of wonderful things and putting out that energy to attract more abundant opportunities)
  • THINK-WHAT GOES UP CAN GO HIGHER (as in trying to think of the hope for the best possible outcome instead of the worst- why not put it out there? I promise you’re strong enough to handle the worst, so why not put the best shit out there to the good old universe?!)
  • PURSUE WHAT’S MAKING MY EYES LIGHT UP (as in, yes I can start do a wine 101 show and do a podcast and keep acting in the S is for Revenge because it fulfills me- try to do less of what drains you and aim to find the things that make your eyes light up and keep at it!)
  • SMILE MORE (as in spread the love to more strangers, keep my opening up my heart!!)


Happy New Year all, may your wine glasses always be half full (or completely full) and your hearts OPEN!



food for thought: self promotion

Here’s the thing, self promotion is a necessity. And this expands past creatives too, no matter what you are pursing in life, you’re not going to further yourself without a good dose of humble bragging. Humble being the key because no one likes a douche-y “I DGAF about you, but my life is LIIIIIT” brag. Just don’t.

Now I classify myself as an extrovert- I love meeting new people, socializing, etc. so talking about myself usually comes easily. Usually. There are days when I’d rather not and listening to others is my cup of tea. So for the sake of honest conversation, I have my days.

I also have friends who fall on the introverted side. Self promotion can feel like a task and a half. It feel so opposite of their being and yucky. Which I see too, talking about yourself in front of new people, people who you might admire can feel intimidating- like, “I haven’t done anything of note, so why bother sharing”.

But again mindset here. And I have a trick that I use to grow and cultivate that confidence.


I am such a huge proponent!!! At first I poo-poo’d them (classic extrovert, I’m already confident, I don’t need them). So false. And they couldn’t be easier to make and utilize. Essentially, you’re writing positive mindset phrases that you repeat to yourself daily. Think- an AM pep talk to yourself. The repetition and practice will help lessen the shitty “I’m not good enough/ things won’t work out/ I don’t have support” thoughts. So grab yourself a stack of index cards and make a set for your bed side table. Some of my favorites are:


You can make them more specific to your field, but they are really about opening your mind and filling your head with the good thoughts. My theory is that the better you feel mentally, the easier it is to open up and share your wins.

And speaking of BIG WIN, my film GEO DISASTER is now available to watch/rent/buy on Amazon (link below) and OnDemand! I couldn’t be more proud of how it turned out. We filmed it in 10 days and with a budget of around $175,000, which in Hollywood is next to nothing. Props to everyone involved. Can’t wait for you to see if I survive!

one final thought:


Hold that true. My friends and family have reminded me of this lately. You are the CEO of your own life, so build yourself up baby-no one else will more than yourself.



food for thought: fuck getting your ducks in a row

f getting your ducks in a row

You know that expression “I need to get my ducks in a row”? Well as of late, I’ve decided to say FUCK the DUCKS. A bit harsh I know, but the phrase is getting thrown out of my vernacular. CIAO!


Because the more I try to “get my ducks in a row” then do this or that, I’m essentially procrastinating. Trial by error and living more fluidly has helped me create this blog, score roles, make friends, take trips, date, trying new things because I decided to:


I used to be the queen of “oh I’ll be ready to date” or “I can handle this audition” or “I can break up with him” or “I’ll quit my job” when I have my life more in order (the examples go on and on). But when are you really ready? When you’ve worked 2 more weeks at the job you don’t like to really clarify quitting is the best idea? When you’ve taken 2 more weeks to psych yourself up before you’re ready to tell the guy/girl you’ve been friends with for years that your feelings are more than just friendly? To steal a little slogan from Nike:


Taking action trumps trying to make things happen in a certain way. Odds are if you wait they still won’t end up how you’ve planned. So fuck the ducks, the fear, the little voice in your head who needs a liiiitle more time to feel safe. No one grew to their success by taking action only when they felt safe.

There’s a reason growth comes when you push yourself outside of your comfort zone; 9 times out of 10 it’s not as bad as what you’ve made it up to be in your head. True, sometimes it’s worse. I was fired from one of my first acting jobs on set and had to drive back from Big Bear while I cried and listened to The Script. But the world kept spinning, and I kept acting and took action to stay in the game. I’ve booked bigger and better projects because I just dove right in and didn’t let the fear of getting fired get the best of me.

Truth be told I’m scared to publish this, but I’m going to do it. Because I believe it’s important to share and help each other’s human experience in a positive way.

So, I dare you to do something this week before you get your ducks in a row.


Hit publish. Make that call. Send the email. Say bye-bye. And say hello to a new freedom that you didn’t have to work as hard to create.

(And if you need a little boost before you do xyz, feel free to comment and ask me!)

Have a great weekend.

xo NP

food for thought #2: show me the money

Let’s talk first jobs. Mine was actually a diaper commercial. And man, I really wish I could recall that day of filming. Like I want nothing more than to see the world through my toddler eyes that day, but until that technology becomes available, the footage itself will have to do.

Yep, “that’s me” alright. Living my best life at the age of 2. Happily being a ham in front of the camera.


Since then, many things have changed in the ad world. Lots of companies are now approaching influencers about promoting their products and a lot of commercial work for actors has gone non-union (aka less money and no residuals). Business wise, I get it. They’re cutting costs where they can. And it’s funny to be on both sides as someone who auditions for commercials but also blogs.

So here’s my two cents: if you are being approached by these bigger companies know your worth! I know it can be scary to ask for more money, but if you don’t ask then you’ll a) never know if they’d pay you more b) step outside your comfort zone and realize it’s not actually that scary to ask. But also have the grounds to back yourself up. Numbers talk sure, but engagement is where it’s at. They’re more likely to show you the money when you stand up for your work.

Just a little reminder, sparked from mini-me, to know your worth and stick to it.

Have a great weekend y’all!

Signing off from Austin, TX


food for thought: 1st edition

Soooo in Wednesday’s post I mentioned how had been feeling uninspired the past few weeks. Do you ever have those moments? I was like, I have this beautiful blog space and I don’t feel like writing + sharing sh*t. I was down on myself because lately I’ve only been sharing wine content, which is great, don’t get me wrong, but this isn’t a wine blog. But it’s also not a fashion blog, food blog or my acting page. Bottom line is, I was having an identity crisis.

All the advice I hear when you start a blog is find your niche. And even though I’ve been at this for over a year, it still feels brand new! I’m still “trial and erroring” as I grow this site. WTF is my niche?? I’m a self proclaimed actress with an appetite for many aspects of life. I want to try it all!

This is where the “food for thought” series came to life. I needed a way to funnel down so I wasn’t all over the map.

It went a little something like this:

I was having an Aperol spritz with one of my best friends and I brought up how I was feeling so “meh/overwhelmed/gahhhhelpmeplease” about this site.  I knew the wine was working (when is it not?!) but I didn’t know which direction to go with other posts. I have ideas but lately they’d just been clouding my brain and no action was happening. I wanted consistency.  A) to help me fit writing into my schedule and B) so y’all + new readers know what to expect. 

Why don’t you do a “food for thought Fridays”? That way you have your wine on Wednesday and Fridays you can open up about your other areas of interest.  

**I nearly started crying** Ok sliiight exaggeration, but her idea was brilliant: An op-ed style Friday segment where I could write about acting, food, breakups, losses, wins, double standards, and why I hate the term “overnight success”.

A weight was lifted off my chest. This is my niche. Drinking and dishing my way through Hollywood. Serving up a slice of honesty with a side of do what makes you happy.

So here’s to many more editions of sharing my stories, words of wisdom, how I keep hustling…favorite restaurants sprinkled in their too.

Cheers friends!