food for thought: self promotion

Here’s the thing, self promotion is a necessity. And this expands past creatives too, no matter what you are pursing in life, you’re not going to further yourself without a good dose of humble bragging. Humble being the key because no one likes a douche-y “I DGAF about you, but my life is LIIIIIT” brag. Just don’t.

Now I classify myself as an extrovert- I love meeting new people, socializing, etc. so talking about myself usually comes easily. Usually. There are days when I’d rather not and listening to others is my cup of tea. So for the sake of honest conversation, I have my days.

I also have friends who fall on the introverted side. Self promotion can feel like a task and a half. It feel so opposite of their being and yucky. Which I see too, talking about yourself in front of new people, people who you might admire can feel intimidating- like, “I haven’t done anything of note, so why bother sharing”.

But again mindset here. And I have a trick that I use to grow and cultivate that confidence.

ENTER MANTRA CARDS

I am such a huge proponent!!! At first I poo-poo’d them (classic extrovert, I’m already confident, I don’t need them). So false. And they couldn’t be easier to make and utilize. Essentially, you’re writing positive mindset phrases that you repeat to yourself daily. Think- an AM pep talk to yourself. The repetition and practice will help lessen the shitty “I’m not good enough/ things won’t work out/ I don’t have support” thoughts. So grab yourself a stack of index cards and make a set for your bed side table. Some of my favorites are:

I AM ENOUGH
WHEN DID IT GET SO EASY TO TRUST THAT I AM DOING ENOUGH?
GLOW BABY GLOW
HERE I AM WORLD, LOOK AT ME
I GIVE MYSELF PERMISSION TO GO FOR IT
MY TIMING IS PERFECT
I LOVE MYSELF JUST THE WAY I AM

You can make them more specific to your field, but they are really about opening your mind and filling your head with the good thoughts. My theory is that the better you feel mentally, the easier it is to open up and share your wins.

And speaking of BIG WIN, my film GEO DISASTER is now available to watch/rent/buy on Amazon (link below) and OnDemand! I couldn’t be more proud of how it turned out. We filmed it in 10 days and with a budget of around $175,000, which in Hollywood is next to nothing. Props to everyone involved. Can’t wait for you to see if I survive!


one final thought:

EVERYONE STARTS SOMEWHERE

Hold that true. My friends and family have reminded me of this lately. You are the CEO of your own life, so build yourself up baby-no one else will more than yourself.

Cheers!

 

food for thought: fuck getting your ducks in a row

f getting your ducks in a row

You know that expression “I need to get my ducks in a row”? Well as of late, I’ve decided to say FUCK the DUCKS. A bit harsh I know, but the phrase is getting thrown out of my vernacular. CIAO!

Why?

Because the more I try to “get my ducks in a row” then do this or that, I’m essentially procrastinating. Trial by error and living more fluidly has helped me create this blog, score roles, make friends, take trips, date, trying new things because I decided to:

“GO” BEFORE I THOUGHT I WAS READY

I used to be the queen of “oh I’ll be ready to date” or “I can handle this audition” or “I can break up with him” or “I’ll quit my job” when I have my life more in order (the examples go on and on). But when are you really ready? When you’ve worked 2 more weeks at the job you don’t like to really clarify quitting is the best idea? When you’ve taken 2 more weeks to psych yourself up before you’re ready to tell the guy/girl you’ve been friends with for years that your feelings are more than just friendly? To steal a little slogan from Nike:

JUST DO IT

Taking action trumps trying to make things happen in a certain way. Odds are if you wait they still won’t end up how you’ve planned. So fuck the ducks, the fear, the little voice in your head who needs a liiiitle more time to feel safe. No one grew to their success by taking action only when they felt safe.

There’s a reason growth comes when you push yourself outside of your comfort zone; 9 times out of 10 it’s not as bad as what you’ve made it up to be in your head. True, sometimes it’s worse. I was fired from one of my first acting jobs on set and had to drive back from Big Bear while I cried and listened to The Script. But the world kept spinning, and I kept acting and took action to stay in the game. I’ve booked bigger and better projects because I just dove right in and didn’t let the fear of getting fired get the best of me.

Truth be told I’m scared to publish this, but I’m going to do it. Because I believe it’s important to share and help each other’s human experience in a positive way.

So, I dare you to do something this week before you get your ducks in a row.

DOUBLE DOG DARE.

Hit publish. Make that call. Send the email. Say bye-bye. And say hello to a new freedom that you didn’t have to work as hard to create.

(And if you need a little boost before you do xyz, feel free to comment and ask me!)

Have a great weekend.

xo NP

food for thought #2: show me the money

Let’s talk first jobs. Mine was actually a diaper commercial. And man, I really wish I could recall that day of filming. Like I want nothing more than to see the world through my toddler eyes that day, but until that technology becomes available, the footage itself will have to do.

Yep, “that’s me” alright. Living my best life at the age of 2. Happily being a ham in front of the camera.

 

Since then, many things have changed in the ad world. Lots of companies are now approaching influencers about promoting their products and a lot of commercial work for actors has gone non-union (aka less money and no residuals). Business wise, I get it. They’re cutting costs where they can. And it’s funny to be on both sides as someone who auditions for commercials but also blogs.

So here’s my two cents: if you are being approached by these bigger companies know your worth! I know it can be scary to ask for more money, but if you don’t ask then you’ll a) never know if they’d pay you more b) step outside your comfort zone and realize it’s not actually that scary to ask. But also have the grounds to back yourself up. Numbers talk sure, but engagement is where it’s at. They’re more likely to show you the money when you stand up for your work.

Just a little reminder, sparked from mini-me, to know your worth and stick to it.

Have a great weekend y’all!

Signing off from Austin, TX

NP

food for thought: 1st edition

Soooo in Wednesday’s post I mentioned how had been feeling uninspired the past few weeks. Do you ever have those moments? I was like, I have this beautiful blog space and I don’t feel like writing + sharing sh*t. I was down on myself because lately I’ve only been sharing wine content, which is great, don’t get me wrong, but this isn’t a wine blog. But it’s also not a fashion blog, food blog or my acting page. Bottom line is, I was having an identity crisis.

All the advice I hear when you start a blog is find your niche. And even though I’ve been at this for over a year, it still feels brand new! I’m still “trial and erroring” as I grow this site. WTF is my niche?? I’m a self proclaimed actress with an appetite for many aspects of life. I want to try it all!

This is where the “food for thought” series came to life. I needed a way to funnel down so I wasn’t all over the map.

It went a little something like this:

I was having an Aperol spritz with one of my best friends and I brought up how I was feeling so “meh/overwhelmed/gahhhhelpmeplease” about this site.  I knew the wine was working (when is it not?!) but I didn’t know which direction to go with other posts. I have ideas but lately they’d just been clouding my brain and no action was happening. I wanted consistency.  A) to help me fit writing into my schedule and B) so y’all + new readers know what to expect. 

Why don’t you do a “food for thought Fridays”? That way you have your wine on Wednesday and Fridays you can open up about your other areas of interest.  

**I nearly started crying** Ok sliiight exaggeration, but her idea was brilliant: An op-ed style Friday segment where I could write about acting, food, breakups, losses, wins, double standards, and why I hate the term “overnight success”.

A weight was lifted off my chest. This is my niche. Drinking and dishing my way through Hollywood. Serving up a slice of honesty with a side of do what makes you happy.

So here’s to many more editions of sharing my stories, words of wisdom, how I keep hustling…favorite restaurants sprinkled in their too.

Cheers friends!

xxNP